Ep 48: Delivering Feedback Without Fear: Finding Balance Between Honesty and Control


Have you ever hesitated to give feedback because you’re afraid of how someone might react? In this episode, we dive into the uncomfortable yet crucial skill of delivering honest feedback without trying to control the other person’s response. We’ll break down why it’s vital to hold people accountable and recognize that while your words matter, you cannot dictate their actions.

We’ll explore four essential steps to delivering feedback effectively, focusing on being kind, caring, and doing what’s best for the long term, not just avoiding discomfort in the moment. You will learn how to approach difficult conversations with the intent to help, not control, and how honesty builds stronger teams and trust.

What You’ll Learn In Today’s Episode:

  • The importance of remembering we can’t control other people.
  • Why we must be honest with our associates and direct reports.
  • The benefit of addressing issues head-on.
  • Why the “feedback sandwich” is no longer a great option for giving feedback.
  • How to avoid getting stuck in a position where you are beholden to one person.

Ideas Worth Sharing:

“If you’re nervous about giving someone feedback and you’re not sure how they’re going to react, remember that you can't control their reaction.” – Elisia Keown Share on X

“Being kind and caring and knowing what is best for the person long-term is not just what feels best right now.” – Elisia Keown Share on X

“Give praise in public and developmental feedback in private.” – Elisia Keown Share on X

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